Watching my children grow is a source of daily happiness. My little ones exude joy! Their excitement about the smallest things – finding pebbles with interesting shapes or simply the thrill of running fast – reminds me how wonderful it is to delight in simple things.
I’m constantly impressed by how much my children absorb every day. Observing them learn to communicate as siblings is very special – on their own, they’re discovering how to share toys and navigating when to play together or independently. One of the greatest joys I have ever experienced was seeing my two daughters become such caring big sisters to their little brother. The girls love taking care of him, and that really helps me out a lot!
Our nightly ritual has always been to read books together. I wrote my first children’s book, Kiki & Jax, with them in mind, so I’m elated by how much they love opening a book and pouring over the pages.

When I was little, I imagined being a good mother to my children one day – just as my own mother was to me. I also had a very strong bond with my paternal grandmother, Oba-chan, and feel lucky to have had many good role models for how to take care of children. But the time and labor involved in raising a family is more than I ever imagined – especially in their infant years, when I had virtually no time for myself. The experience has made me more thankful toward my own parents.

Just after my older daughter was born, I felt unable to forgive myself for not being able to manage my life as I had before. But, with time, I eased up on myself; then, after I gave birth to my second daughter, I let go of my need for perfection altogether. I am busier than ever after having my third child, so I have grown to accept that I cannot tidy every day – and that is okay!
When I see my three little ones playing together, it brings so much joy to me and makes me feel warm and fuzzy inside. Instead of concentrating on clutter or pressuring myself to clean right then and there, I focus on the delight I feel in those present moments, knowing we can address any messes made later on. When it’s time to clean up, I involve my kids in the process – or clean up in one shot at the end of the day when they’re asleep.
Before becoming a mom, I would feel defeated when I made mistakes – I could be quite hard on myself. Now I imagine one of my children feeling deflated after trying something challenging, and I tell myself the same things I would tell them. Motherhood has helped me be kinder and gentler with myself – and that is a gift in and of itself.

In Japan, our practice on Mother’s Day is to give our mothers a single carnation. Every year, I send my mother some carnations and a small gift. In our house, my husband helps my children create handmade cards for me – the first one I ever received, with their handprints on the inside, is one of my most cherished possessions.